Editor’s note: Terri Clark’s episode of In the Moment premieres Friday (Dec. 2) at 9 p.m. ET/PT on CMT.
From the beginning of her career, Terri Clark has been mostly reticent to discuss her personal life. So it comes as somewhat of a surprise that she allowed cameras from CMT’s In the Moment to follow her and fiancé Greg Kaczor while planning their wedding. Here, she explains why she agreed to film the show, why she prayed for two weeks before the day and what the happy couple will always remember most.
CMT: When did filming start on the show?
Clark: I think filming started in May, didn’t it? April? Wow, yeah, April. … They followed us everywhere. They were on the bus. They were in catering. They were on the road. They were there when we were picking out invitations. They were in Canada when we picked up our marriage licenses and saw the spot where we wanted to get married for the first time. They came to everything. They were just around a lot.
What made you want to say yes to this kind of program?
First of all, I thought it would be a really great wedding album on video for us! (laughs) It’s a great way to get your wedding all documented. You can show it to your grandkids someday — professional and all that. But I thought it would be fun. I have never been an open book, as far as my private life goes, because I never felt like there was any permanence in my personal life, in my dating life, to be talking about. I didn’t want to open that book if it wasn’t something that was going to be around for a long time. I always said, “When I walk down the aisle, I’ll let everybody know who I’m dating.” Boy, did I ever! Just bring the cameras in! I felt too that I’d been a little guarded about it in the past, and the time was right to bring people in a little more.
What was Greg’s reaction to all the cameras?
Greg was OK with it because he’s been around for my whole career. He’s been on camera plenty. He’s used to it. If it had been any other guy, who was maybe a construction worker or something, and wasn’t used to this whole show business crap — (in a low, masculine voice) “I’m not doing that!” — it might have been a little more difficult. But he was a willing participant — which helped a lot.
How long did it take to get used to the cameras?
We started off a little guarded — “No this, no that. No cameras at the ceremony. Don’t want that.” Then we really liked our camera girl Shawna. She was very trustworthy and she was really sweet. She just kind of moved in for a while. … It was like, “Shawna’s not here. That’s kind of strange.” Or, “Do you want some coffee? Do you want me to make you an omelet?” She was just there with her camera in tow. They made it really easy to trust them and let them in. They weren’t invasive. She let us dictate what was OK and what wasn’t. In the end, she ended up standing on a rock during our wedding ceremony with a big camera in our faces. From the beginning, I was like, “Absolutely no ceremony. We don’t want cameras at the ceremony.” But we talked about it. I really had to trust her.
Anybody who’s not been on a film shoot, you’ve got three cameras and they’re all running around with their wires, tripping people. All they care about is what they’re getting on the camera, and they don’t care about anything else going on. I said, “The wedding ceremony is only going to happen one time in our lives, and please just try to be invisible if you can.” And they absolutely were. We didn’t even know they were there.
What was the biggest surprise you encountered while planning your wedding?
I was surprised at how perfectly it went, honestly. There were absolutely no bad moments. I was absolutely having a breakdown about the weather three days before, because for two weeks, it was miserable, dreary, drizzly and cold. Like 40 degrees. And it was an outdoor ceremony in the mountains. The cameras went with us to scout the location of where we wanted to get married. That day was just perfect. It was like, “If we get a day anywhere close to this …” So for two weeks, I was praying on my knees, “Please let the weather clear up.” And it cleared up for one day — and it was our wedding day. That was the only nice day they had that whole day, pretty much. It was really windy and really cold, but I was fine with that as long as it wasn’t raining.
Did anybody sing at your wedding?
No, nobody sang. I actually programmed all the wedding dinner tunes on my iPod and just brought some speakers in and played it. I worked on my set list there for a while. We had everything from Captain & Tennille to the Jackson 5 to Merle Haggard on that. We had some really cheesy songs, like “You Are So Beautiful.” Greg has been my road manager for 10 years. He’s been tweaking me for 10 years — working on me like Chinese water torture. He used to call me and wake me up and start singing “Close to You” in the phone, the Carpenters song. So, of course, that was on there, too.
Looking back on your wedding day, what do you remember the most?
I remember the most seeing all of his history … childhood friends that he grew up with since he was 5 and went to school with. And all of my history … childhood friends that I had grown up with and known since I was 12. They were getting along so great — like this was meant to be. It was like they’d known each other for years. Some of them were crying when they left because they were sad to be saying goodbye to these people they had just met. It was a beautiful, touching thing — that all these people who had never met before … were brought together through one common thing, and that was Greg and I. It showed, too, the rightness of the whole thing.
That’s the thing that we will always remember the best: the bonding that went on overnight, literally. It was just so much fun. One of my best friends from high school was there, and she said, “You’re the only people I’ve ever known that invite the party back to the honeymoon suite after dinner!” (laughs) “Come on, everybody. I’ve got a case of free wine upstairs!” (laughs)