I know exactly what Taylor Swift is talking about when she talks about the “Yeah, Buts.” In the latest issue of the British edition of Glamour magazine, Swift says when things are going well, everyone’s kind of waiting to hear the sordid details of what’s not going so well.
“Well, the way it works, as I’ve learned recently, is if you reach a point in your career where things are going very well, public perception needs a ‘Yeah, but,’” she told the magazine. “Like, ‘Yeah, but she’s been on a lotta dates apparently.’ … ‘Yeah, but I hear she’s crazy.’
“I think you’ll find it has a lot to do with being a woman. And I resent that.”
And she should. The double standard that exists in the celeb world is just as bad as it is in the real world. Can you imagine a guy getting the “Yeah, buts” in every conversation?
Swift added that it makes it hard to have guys who are really truly just friends.
“I’m not gonna say to my guy friends, ‘No, I can’t go to lunch because people will say we’re dating,’” she said. “I just reject the idea I have to change the way I live my life.”
And yet she is determined not to become unhinged over the things people say about her — the good and/or the bad.
“You can be obsessed with the bad things people say and the good things,” she said. “Either way, you’re obsessed with yourself — and I’m not. You can become unhinged so easily. Vanity can apply to both insecurity and egotism. So I distance myself, because I feel everything. The little I am exposed to hurts my feelings.
“The only things I can really control are my songs and my behavior. The rest? If I focused on it, that would lead to insanity.”