A while back, Miranda Lambert tweeted, “Knowing what you want doesn’t make you a bitch.” (She was actually quoting her friend Becky Fluke, a country music photographer and director.)
And the response from Lambert’s followers? Let’s just say their endless retweets were heard ’round the world. And Jennifer Nettles was one of the women who celebrated and echoed Lambert’s words.
“I think that we are so challenged as women to be everything and do everything and make it look easy,” Nettles told Redbook magazine. “Also to speak our minds but not be bitchy. All these things are, quite frankly, impossible to achieve. So knowing what we want — no, it doesn’t make us a bitch. It makes us know what we want, plain and simple.”
Nettles revealed that knowing what she wants can lead to being in the spotlight, which can lead to too much self-critiquing.
“Perfectionism is really a challenge for me, and it causes me to be super-critical of myself in so many ways — about body image constantly, about parenting, about being a mother. For me, that’s still my most important job, ever, and I don’t want to mess it up. And yet, there’s no perfect way to do it!
“You know? It’s important to have an examined life — but it’s a fine line between having an examined life and being hypercritical of oneself. There has to be balance in there somewhere. I haven’t found it yet. When I do, I’ll let you know.”
I follow Nettles on Instagram, and I have to say it looks like she does have balance in her life. She never seems to take herself too seriously. She’ll post pictures of anything and everything. Especially food.
“I have a sweet tooth the size of Connecticut. It’s a problem. I think about it all the time. If only popcorn was what I wanted! I do love a good salt-and-vinegar chip, but I like to follow it with a brownie,” Nettles admitted to the magazine.
The response to That Girl, her solo album, has been simultaneously inspiring, motivating and a relief.
“It makes me feel vulnerable to put myself out there is a new way,” she said. “You hope your fans have evolved with you and that the music will gain new fans, too! You do your best, but you never know.”