Jessie James Decker on Being a Girlboss

Driven Singer Talks Becoming a Media Mogul By 30

Whenever fans get a chance to chat with Jessie James Decker, they want to know everything about her.

As soon as she signed on for a CMT Facebook Live chat, comments from followers immediately flooded the feed, asking about her new EP Gold, her hair perfumes, her clothing line and when she’s doing another season of her reality show.

And she’s accomplished all this before her 30th birthday while raising two children with her husband, NFL star Eric Decker.

“I’m working on my first lifestyle book now,” Decker told “I just started working on it. I’m really excited about that. We are getting back into television. And I’ll be shooting a music video. So it’s lots of crazy stuff going on. But it’s all good.”

Decker says she gets her drive from her Italian mother, who instilled in her children the belief that they can accomplish anything they wanted in life through hard work and determination.

“She made me feel like I could do it all,” Decker said of her mom during our interview. “For me, I feel like I’m slowly accomplishing what I’ve always wanted to do. I’ve always dreamed really big and my mom planted that in all three of my siblings, ‘You guys can do anything.'”

Out of all the initiatives that make Decker a mogul, she believes her No. 1 purpose in life is passing on that legacy to her children as well as her fans.

“I’ve so many dreams and things that I want to do,” she said. “I want what I’m doing to feel worth it to me. So when people are telling me that I’m inspiring them or helping them through a hard time, then that’s worth it to me. I know in return my daughter’s looking up to that and it’s going to inspire her to do good things.” Did you see yourself being a mogul by 30?

Decker: When I was really young, I was so driven that I always felt like this was possible. I definitely need to have those moments where I sit back and I’m like, “Calm down for a second. You’re doing it.” But I think that’s what’s keeps me going.

How much of Gold did you write? And tell me more about the title track.

It was tough because we have about 15 songs that we’re going to slowly keep putting out, but we’ve put out five this EP. On this one, I wrote two out of the five. One was the single “Lights Down Low” with Alyssa Bonagura. “Girl on the Coast” I wrote alone. I’m excited because the next five we’re putting out, I also wrote two of those alone, too.

This is the first time I’ve ever really put music out there that I’ve ever written completely by myself. And I think I was always scared to do that because I just didn’t know I could do it.

“Gold” is about being appreciative and grateful of your life, your family and the love in it. I just feel like that’s where I’m at right now. Everything is gold and I just couldn’t ask for anything better. That was the perfect thing to call the record.

How often do you get to write for yourself?

I write in the weirdest places. I wrote “Girl on the Coast” in my car with the kids in the back and Eric driving. I just wrote the whole thing on my phone. I just typed out the lyrics. I mean, there’s another song that’s going on the record called “Fall in Love” that I wrote. I wrote the lyrics, the melody and everything in a hotel room by myself at 7 p.m. at night. I’ll come up with ideas and they’re so strong that I can just knock them out and be done with it. So it’s kind of cool. All of a sudden, I’ll get really inspired. It’s usually after I’ve had coffee.

Do you get much time for yourself between raising a family and everything that’s going on in your life? What’s your five minutes of bliss?

I think I get my alone time when I have to go fly and do a work trip. After work’s done, I go check into my hotel and I get to have a few hours to myself to order room service and just be quiet and silent. But I ended up missing my family by the time it’s time for bed.

Lauren Tingle is a Tennessean and storyteller who eats music for breakfast, lunch and dinner. When she’s not writing or rocking out, she enjoys yoga and getting lost in the great outdoors.