Taylor Swift: Crushes Can Be Crushing

SherbetSwift is private on Instagram, but you can learn a lot just from her Instagram bio: “Taylor Commented on July 22nd 2014. ’I think someday you’ll find someone who loves you in that exact same way.'”

That last line is something Taylor Swift told this fan — named Hannah– when she responded to Sherbet’s question on Tuesday. Here’s what I know about the comment heard ’round the world, and the question that started it all.

This Swift fan reached out to the singer looking for some guy advice.

“There’s a guy, Taylor, a guy who’s sweet and charming and makes me laugh. A guy who said sorry for eating in front of me after finding out I had to skip breakfast. A guy who grew up across the street from me. A guy who plays guitar like me. A guy who was my first best friend. A guy who I met when I was 7 and he was 9. A guy who this one time, when we were younger, said that I was ’like’ his girlfriend because I was a girl and his friend. I wish. A guy who I have the biggest crush in the whole wide world on, and he’ll never like me back. (And he has a girlfriend who he adores, and she’s pretty and has an amazing figure and is actually nice to me). A guy who will never like me back. @taylorswift can you give me some advice maybe. I love you, Hannah.”

Boy, did she ever give Hannah some advice.

“Hannah. Eyes, eyes, eyes. Woah. You have the prettiest, widest, most childlike eyes. (Composes herself) Okay. About this guy. I think we grow up thinking the only love that counts as true love is the kind that lasts forever or is fully realized. When you have a broken heart, the first thing a stranger will ask is, ’How long were you two together?’ As if your pain can be determined by how long you were with someone. Or if you were with them at all. I don’t think that’s how it works. I think unrequited love is just as valid as any other kind. It’s just as crushing and just as thrilling. No matter what happens in this situation, I want you to remember that what you are doing is selfless and beautiful and kind. You are loving someone purely because you love them, not because you think you’ll ever have your affections reciprocated. You are admiring something for its beauty, without needing to own it. Feel good about being the kind of person who loves selflessly. I think someday you’ll find someone who loves you in that exact same way maybe. I love you.”